Feeling Stuck? How to Reset When You’ve Lost Your Way
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Understand the hidden loop draining your momentum and keeping you stuck.
Learn why self-sabotage is showing up for you time and time again.
Recognise how two key pillars of momentum.
Access a free masterclass to delve deeper and help you reset step by step.
Have you ever wondered why you start strong on a goal, only to lose steam, get stuck and fall back into old patterns?
You’re not alone and it’s not just about willpower or discipline. There’s actually a neuroscience-backed reason why you keep losing momentum over and over again.
The Hidden Brain Loop That Keeps You Stuck
Here’s what’s really happening:
The Planning Trap
You start by making plans (researching, creating another to-do list, putting together a timeline). It feels productive and your brain even rewards you with a dopamine hit. But the truth is, you haven’t actually done anything. Soon you either feel satisfied enough to pause or spiral into analysis paralysis, endlessly ruminating on “what if” scenarios.Overwhelm Takes Over
With so many options, your brain’s fear centre (the amygdala) activates. Stress takes over, making it harder to think clearly or problem-solve. Instead of staying motivated, you feel all over the place and exhausted.Inaction Creeps In
Overwhelm leads to paralysis. You feel stuck, unsure of where to start. That inner voice whispers: “Can you really do this? What will people think?” And because your brain is wired for safety, it convinces you to stay exactly where you are.
The cycle then repeats. A bad day at work, the Sunday scaries, or the sense that something is missing in life and you go right back to planning.
Sound familiar?
Why Self-Sabotage Shows Up
What often holds you back isn’t laziness. It’s your brain’s protective mechanisms, designed to keep you safe, not happy.
Your nervous system labels challenges as “threats,” even if they’re not truly dangerous.
Old beliefs and identities (“I always quit,” “I’m not consistent”) keep you stuck in your comfort zone.
On the surface you see procrastination or excuses, but underneath, your brain is simply trying to shield you.
Recognising this is the first step and the sooner you’re able to access what is going on at that deeper layer, the quicker you will be able to move through it.
Why Self-Commitment Matters
The truth is, momentum starts with self-commitment. The decision to stop abandoning yourself and your dreams.
Here’s why it matters:
It Builds Self-Trust – Each promise you keep to yourself teaches your brain: I can rely on myself.
It Reflects Self-Worth – Prioritising yourself says: I matter too.
It Fuels Momentum – Commitment keeps you moving, even after setbacks.
It Rewires Your Identity – You stop seeing yourself as someone who quits and start becoming someone who follows through.
It Shapes How Others Treat You – When you respect your own commitments, others do too.
The Secret Isn’t Consistency - It’s Your Bounce Back Rate
Everyone talks about consistency, but in reality, the key is your bounce back rate.
It’s not about never slipping off track, life will always throw you curveballs. It’s about how quickly you get back on track:
An off week where life got busy
A holiday that threw off your routine
Forgetting a new habit for a day
Instead of waiting until Monday, your bounce back rate helps you restart fast, before momentum disappears.
Momentum is the invisible force that makes hard things feel easier over time. It’s built step by step, fuelled by self-commitment and protected by your ability to bounce back quickly.
Want to dive deeper into this topic and be guided step by step to create commit to yourself and create your person momentum map? Watch The Reset Masterclass here and start building unstoppable momentum today.
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