Stop Listening to Everyone Else
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Understand if you’re outsourcing your decisions.
Learn how listening to others is keeping you stuck.
Discover the importance of tuning back into yourself.
Everyone has an opinion about what you should do. And this can become even more present in December when everyone’s thinking about the next year, their goals and what they want to achieve. Your family, friends, podcasts, Instagram, LinkedIn. Suddenly it seems like everyone knows what’s best for you.
And honestly? It’s tempting to listen.
Because doing what people say you should do is often the easy option.
Taking someone else’s advice feels easier and safer. It gives you direction without having to sit in the uncertainty of making your own decisions. It removes some of the pressure. And if it works out, brilliant. If it doesn’t, at least it wasn’t your fault, you kind of have someone else to blame.
But the problem is, when you keep following other people’s advice, you end up living by someone else’s definition of success, not your own. You end up with a life that might look successful on paper but you feel like somethings missing.
Do any of these sound familiar?
You find yourself asking five different people what you should do before making a decision.
You feel anxious when others disagree with your choices.
You worry about what people will think if you take a different path.
You feel “off track” when your life doesn’t look like everyone else’s.
If you’re nodding to any of these, please know you’re not alone. But the more you rely on other people’s opinions, the more you lose touch with yourself, what feels right for you and your intuition. Because often what feels right, doesn’t always make sense to others. And it’s making these (often hard) decisions that create HUGE changes in your life.
When you take someone else’s advice, you get to avoid the discomfort of the decision being just on your shoulders. It feels like a lot of pressure and getting reassurance from others helps you to feel like you’re making the “right” decision, which gives your brain some level of certainty, safety and reassurance. But no one else can truly know what’s “right” for you, so you are often left feeling frustrated that you didn’t listen to yourself.
When you outsource your choices, you end up chasing someone else’s version of success.
Maybe you climb the corporate career ladder… only to realise you always wanted to start your own business.
Maybe you follow the “safe” path… but always feel a bit bored with life.
Maybe you hit all the milestones… but wonder why it still doesn’t feel good.
You end up living a life that looks “right” from the outside but doesn’t feel aligned on the inside and that’s exhausting.
The solution is to learn how to tune back into yourself and most importantly trust yourself.
Trust that no matter what choice you make you will be ok.
Trust that you will always make the “right” choice for yourself at the time, even if it doesn’t pan out how you were expecting it to.
And trust that actually sometimes doing the “wrong” thing can help you so much more in life to figure feels what is right.
This trust comes easily when you rewire your mindset and regulate your nervous system.
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